'Speaking the right truth to the right person at the right time in the right way for the right reason'
RIGHT TRUTH
not every truth is mine to tell.
A truth shared in confidence or a truth that would needlessly hurt anyone is not mine to tell.
RIGHT PERSON
Not every person has a right to know the truth.
Some willfully distort what they hear; some use facts to attack the life of larger; some have hard and harsh tongues.
RIGHT TIME
Not everytime is appropriate for the truth.
Some seasons call for tactful silence.
RIGHT WAY
Not every way of communication honors the truth.
Sometimes the manner in which something get conveyed corrode reality.
RIGHT REASON
Some motives for telling the truth are simply too destructive to be clothed in respectability.
When it's the wrong truth or wrong person or wrong time or wrong way or wrong reason,
A white lie may have more integrity than an insensitive honesty.
But when white lie begin to turn slightly shade of gray, when does it cross over and become immoral?
A question need to be asked : does this lie protect the other person or myself.
Carlyle Marney said:
you shall know the truth and the truth shall make you flinch before it makes you free.
Less clearly we see the reality, more our minds befuddle by misconceptions and illusion, less able to determine correct action and make wise decisions.
Our view of reality is a map to negotiate the terrain of life.
By speaking the truth, we enable one another to chart accurate maps, to get from here to wherever we're going with integrity and grater wholeness.
Two Guidelines of telling truth:
1. Truth must be relevant to the situation.
2. Truth must be used to build up and not to tear down.
Dedicate ourself to speaking the truth with pertinent and LOVE even when it's difficult. By doing this we'd help one another chart maps that correspond to reality and we just might even have an easier time finding our way in life.
Drawn from article by Donald W McCullogh.
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